What do Oprah Winfrey, Richard Branson, Warren Buffet and Arnold Schwarzenegger have in common? A Life Coach.
What is a Life Coach?
A Life Coach is not somebody who delves deep into your past, but we do ask you questions that could trigger a certain memory. During these discussions, it could be revealed that subconsciously, holding onto the past has stopped you from achieving greatness and reaching your goals whether it is personal, or business orientated.
Life Coaches are about moving you forward to a life of peace, happiness, and endless possibilities.
We meet and discuss how to gain clarity in your life, and together, make new and exciting plans of how to overcome your obstacles so that you can start working towards your goals.
A Life Coach is a non-judgemental ear that listens, supports and motivates you.
We inspire you to reach your full potential and gain the confidence to achieve what sets your heart and soul on fire.
I find that most solutions are found when you start working on your mindset and positivity first.
The first step is deciding to change. The decision to become the best version of yourself.
It does not matter whether you are trying to improve your relationships, lose weight, reach a goal or change careers it all starts with your mindset.
If your head is not in the game, then nothing will change or if it does change it will not be long-term and you will end up back in the same place.
What is holding you back from deciding to invest in yourself?
We seldom think twice about spending thousands on a pair of shoes, so why do we pass up the opportunity to invest in what is happening on the inside. What is more beneficial?
We need to become more aware of our issues and avoid suppressing them because it hurts too much, or the wound is still too raw. This is where change happens, the open wound. By choosing to ignore it, it will keep rearing its ugly head until we have to deal with it.
It could be childhood scars that are holding you back and in my professional experience, we discover that unresolved childhood events are often the root of the problem.
As children, we develop coping mechanisms that protect us and serve us and as you get older, they do not serve you anymore as it has merely developed into a habit and a pattern, so we continue with it.
Unfortunately, if we do not take the time to look deep within and look at what is stopping us from improved relationships, to self-confidence to fear of trying something new then we will continue to struggle.
Often the changes that need to be made are small, but they can have a huge impact on changing your life for the better.
So, don’t feel overwhelmed, take time out to reflect and think about what could be holding you back from a life of success and happiness and then take small steps to change it.
Are you ready for the change?
Here are the 5 secrets of success I use to assist my clients on their journey’s.
Don’t think of the challenge that you would like to embark on as something negative.
Think about it as the beginning of something new and exciting.
Use all your senses to see, feel, taste, smell and hear it.
When you use all your senses it starts to feel real and you start to get excited and motivated to make the changes.
Take time out to reflect and think about what you would like to achieve or change.
Then put an action plan together of small steps you will take to achieve your goal.
Start small, do not overwhelm yourself.
Take that first step. Once you have started the weight lifts off your shoulders and you will ask yourself
“Now, why didn’t I start sooner! That was not as bad as I imagined it would be.”
3. Resilience – Bouncebackability
On your journey to success, there will be obstacles.
Be ready for them and know that it is all part of the process.
If you must re-route your plans or make small changes then make them.
Don’t spend days and days dwelling and stressing about it. The sooner the changes are made the happier you will feel.
I always promote having an anchor thought to calm you down when obstacles arise, or your stress levels hit the roof.
For example, my personal anchor thought when I start doubting myself is the symbol of the sun and I remind myself that I am capable of shining 24/7/365 if I allow myself to and I do not hide in the shadows while everyone else is shining bright.
So think about an anchor thought you could use that is personal to you and helps you bounce back from obstacles faster and ultimately keeps you on track.
Start your day off with a meditation. What meditation does is it calms you down, it allows you to overcome obstacles faster and more easily. It also allows you to start your day off on a positive note. Meditations are not airy-fairy or what we thought of in the old days as a religious practice. Try these apps “Insight Timer” or “Calm” for thousands of free guided meditations if you are new to meditating. When I start feeling stressed or uneasy about something, I do an extra one during the day or before I go to sleep.
4. Long Term Sustainability
When setting your goal remember that is not what others want and expect from you.
This will not be sustainable in the long run and will not keep you motivated and happy.
This is all about your dreams and goals.
When setting your goals do not allow self-doubt to creep in.
Don’t allow your inner critic to tell you that you are not capable or not good enough.
This is a good time to use your personal anchor thought and symbol that you have chosen.
Learn to turn your negative thoughts into positive thoughts immediately.
This will eventually become a pattern and will happen without you even realising it.
Try setting new goals once a year so that you have direction when the year starts.
You can do this with family and friends. Make it a fun event.
No goal = No direction.
It is very important to have someone to talk to when you start on your journey to success especially when you are feeling confused or are not sure of which direction to go in and more importantly if you are starting to doubt yourself.
I recommend you have a Life Coach or a mentor to support and motivate you through the tough times and the process of change.
It is also priceless to have a family member or friend who is non-judgemental who can be an ear for you to bounce ideas or thoughts off.
I have never met anyone who has achieved anything on their own.
We all need support and guidance.
Humans need a feeling of belonging to survive and achieve success, so find your tribe who will be there for you through thick and thin.
Through my years of coaching, I have seen people’s lives improve through gaining self-confidence, changing careers, starting their businesses, improving their relationships, improving their health & fitness, finding peace & happiness and so much more.
The success list is endless that I have been privileged to witness and help individuals reach their goals.
Whatever you are trying to achieve or change I wish you well in your journey to success.
Don’t forget the fun is not the destination, the fun is in the journey.
You are worthy. #shinebright